Marriage Isn’t For You

4 Nov

Before you judge, actually read the article below. Then come back and share your thoughts with me!




READ HERE: Marriage Isn’t For You.


2 Responses to “Marriage Isn’t For You”

  1. Molly Scroggins May 2, 2014 at 1:01 pm #

    “But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and anguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

    I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

    To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

    And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

    Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.”

    I truly love and believe this. After all, isn’t this how God created marriage to be?

    Molly Flournoy Scroggins (Daugther of Mike Flournoy)

  2. Susan E. Kennedy November 4, 2013 at 2:03 pm #

    Interesting, eye-opening article, Jen. Makes me wonder when we became so “me” focused. Is it a result of so many romantic stories that fill, especially girls’, lives, even from the time we are small? We have this idea that romance is all about us, that the object of our interest should be “a perfect fit,” making us feel good and giving us “happily ever after,” and anything less than “perfect” is settling. Yes, there is the “Walmart” mentality of “exchanging” something if it’s not a perfect fit, and I wonder if cold feet are in a way a product of that. We don’t want to be part of that 50 percent divorce rate statistics, so we hesitate to marry at all, afraid of making a mistake. Would wide-spread adoption of this “marriage is for your spouse and your families” approach change anything? Perhaps. I would like to think so, anyway.

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